I love that line…it’s one of the smartest things one of my former bosses taught me when I was a chef…

 

It was in reference to keeping portion sizes ‘human size’

 

OK, what’s it got to do with your wedding?

 

Rehearsals….specifically rehearsal dinners… I’ve had a lot of questions lately on rehearsal dinners…

 

People have become inclined to have rehearsal dinner to “Fatten not Feed” – couples have tried to rival the reception with the party the night before…

 

Many people ‘feel obligated” to invite all the out of town guests (in some cases…it’s everybody!)…the average couple can’t afford to big blowouts…

 

So, here’s the 411 on rehearsal dinners…

 

• Keep it limited to IMMEDIATE family, and bridal party and their dates/spouses or significant others.

 

• Less formal than the reception works well…leave some WOW for the reception!

 

• Give out of town guests a list on your wedding website or in a gift bag at their hotel – maybe some of your favorite local restaurants or pubs…something fun…they’re grown folks and will entertain themselves for one night.

 

• The rehearsal dinner is less about the WOW and more about a time for family and friends to get to know each other before the wedding.

 

Some of the most meaningful toast I’ve ever heard – were at the rehearsal. Seems that the people who don’t get allotted time at the wedding have a lot to say…

 

Doing the extra toasts at the rehearsal makes more sense as it doesn’t take time away from the partying at the reception…

 

It’s a time to share gifts with bridal party, and parents, tell stories you can’t tell in mixed company (wink, wink)- and the private jokes not everyone at the wedding reception would get…

 

Keeping it small and intimate is the best way to share the kind of love these people have for you as a couple…